I TOO have gone back to school, first class I have entered into… VENTING 101
In the past few weeks I have had a lot going on in my life. Those of you that are close enough to me know all about my worries, concerns, frustrations, etc. However, I have come to the conclusion on my drive to work today that instead of being so stressed out about these items I need to vent, and vent freely. No HOLDs bar so to speak. I guess I will break my venting down into different situations or whichever way they seem to be typed out onto this blog. OH THIS WONDERFUL BLOG!
I have had a few different jobs in my life time, from a farm stand on the side of the road to the corporate world. But there is one thing I have learned and learned quickly, there are all types out there. You have the play by the rules, you have the take the bull by horns and just go with it, you have the bossy, you have the timid (cowardly lion as I put it), you have the know it all (there are LOTS of this type out there). Once you realize who you are and where you fit in your circle at work things seem to go smooth. However, you do have the occasional timid - play by the rules person that at some point in time turns into this spiteful know it all. NOTE TO SELF -- stay away from this type of person. There is another lesson I have learned in my many years of labor -- when one is taking a new job, never 1) throw stones at the glass house you once occupied and 2) never ever light a fire under the bridge you just crossed. Why you ask? Well, one day when you have realized that you bit off way more than you can chew, you have to swallow your pride and grovel for that once hideous job back, because you have now realized the grass was a hell of a lot greener on the other side. I do, however, call this bitter sweet. There is nothing like having to watch someone grovel and kiss a little tale to be welcomed back into a place where you were already once warm and cozy at. BITTER SWEET I TELL YA! BITTER SWEET!
On to my next line of venting - legal terminology. Like I have stated above, I have worked many of jobs, of which one was in a law firm for 13 years. So YES I am very familiar with legal terminology, what actually makes a case and even certain situations that would or could eventually become a law suit. But just because I am in knowledge of this, I have also learned that because I do NOT have a juris doctrine I am NOT legally able to give legal advice. The 13 years I spent with my law firm in NJ, I worked in General Litigation, Employment Law, Insurance Defense, Corporate, Wills and Estates, Real Estate, ADR (for those that are UNFIMILIAR with legal terminology ADR= Alternative Dispute Resolution). For the last four years of my 13 years of employment at the firm I worked for Ret. Superior Court Judge Judson C. Hamlin (love this man)! So needless to say I learned a tremendous amount of knowledge from this man. He truly is a world of knowledge and not to mention the sweetest man one could ever ask to work for. Any how, where am I going here, well here it is, I love when I hear people make a comment or suggestion of sort as to a law suit. I find it amusing that a person that has taken a position as a litigation paralegal (has never actually worked in the law environment) but apparently after a brief few weeks is amazingly a genius at determining whether one has a potential law suit or not. I’m sorry but NO you are not an expert NOR should you be giving advice in the field of law. In particularly to a person that was her own reason for her demise. PLEASE I BEG OF YOU, if you have never worked in the field of law or at least for a reasonable amount of time don’t offer legal advice, it truly makes you look STUPID, but it definitely gives me a good chuckle.
Moving on… the world of venting is a beautiful thing. Just putting this all out there has lifted a little weight off my shoulders. Now If I could only get my house finished, put on the market sold, a new house purchased, moved into, in a GREAT school system I believe that would solve another issue of mine… my oldest son’s attitude and persona. Long story short, I need my son in a school system with a little less diversity and a lot more white kids. Let’s just say my son has taken on a new vocabulary lately that I don’t like very much nor do I want to like either!
Okay I vented enough for now… I will continue to vent in the weeks to come. In the meantime, as my brother Steve has stated say a lot of “ommms (yoga)!” He also says that positive things come to those that think positively. Its working too, thanks STEVE!
